- Welcoming a new bub when you already have a toddler can be exciting but requires preparation.
- Start early: talk about the baby, read sibling books, and involve your toddler in nursery prep.
- Make first meetings calm and child-led, with gestures like a big sibling gift.
- Keep routines and schedule one-on-one time to help toddlers feel secure and reduce jealousy.
- Expect emotional ups and downs, validate feelings, and praise positive behaviour.
- Look after yourself, accept help, rest, and focus on small wins.
- Encourage sibling bonding with gentle interactions and shared family time.
Welcoming a brand-new baby into your family is a joyful time, but it can also be a big adjustment, especially if you already have a toddler at home. While you settle into life with a newborn, your toddler may feel unsettled, confused, or even jealous about their new role as an older sibling.
The good news? There are plenty of practical ways to help make the transition easier. This guide covers coping with a toddler and a newborn, supporting their emotions, and encouraging a loving bond between your children from the very start.
Preparing your toddler before baby arrives
Toddlers thrive when they feel involved. Talking to your child early about the new bub helps them understand what’s happening and makes the arrival feel exciting rather than scary. Use age-appropriate language, answer their questions honestly, and read storybooks about becoming a big brother or sister.
You can also involve your toddler in practical preparations: let them pick a baby outfit, help set up the nursery, or choose a special toy for their sibling. Most importantly, reassure them that your love hasn’t changed. Little reminders that they’ll always be your special “big kid” help boost confidence and security.
Easing the first introductions
The first meeting between your toddler and new baby can set the tone for their early relationship. Keep things calm and relaxed. When possible, greet your toddler warmly before introducing the baby, so they don’t feel overlooked. Allow them to approach at their own pace, some children are immediately curious, while others need time to get used to change.
A small gesture, like a “big sibling gift” from the new bub, can make them feel proud and included. These little acts reinforce their important new role and help the first moments feel positive.
