Building your support network
- Talk it out: Sharing your worries with your partner, a friend, or another parent can instantly lighten the load.
- Professional reassurance: Your midwife or GP is there for more than check-ups. They can answer questions, ease concerns and guide you to extra support if needed.
- Find your people: Local antenatal classes or online parent communities are a reminder that you’re not doing this alone. Sometimes just hearing “me too” is the best medicine.
Practical tips for a calmer mind
- Prepare for appointments: Write down questions before seeing your midwife or doctor. That way you leave with answers, not new worries.
- Balance daily life: Give yourself permission to slow down. If work or chores feel overwhelming, delegate or delay. It’s okay to do less right now.
- Create soothing rituals: A warm bath, a favourite podcast, or five minutes with a cuppa can signal to your body and mind that it’s time to unwind.
When to seek extra help
It's completely normal to feel anxious during pregnancy, but if your worries become overwhelming or persistent, it's important to seek support.
Perinatal anxiety affects many expectant parents and can manifest in various ways. Recognising the signs early and reaching out for help can make a significant difference.
Recognising the signs
Perinatal anxiety can present both physical and emotional symptoms. According to Mind, some common signs include:
- Physical symptoms: A churning feeling in your stomach, feeling light-headed or dizzy, pins and needles, feeling restless or unable to sit still, headaches, faster breathing, a fast or irregular heartbeat, sweating, nausea, and needing the toilet more or less often.
- Emotional symptoms: Feeling tense, nervous, or unable to relax; a sense of dread; fear of the worst happening; constant worrying; and seeking excessive reassurance from others.
Anxiety can also lead to behaviours such as avoiding certain situations, being overly cautious, or experiencing panic attacks. These symptoms can interfere with daily life and may indicate that additional support is needed.
When to reach out
If you're experiencing any of the following, it's advisable to speak to a healthcare professional:
- Persistent symptoms: If anxiety or stress continues despite self-care efforts.
- Interference with daily life: When symptoms affect your ability to function normally.
- Physical or emotional distress: Experiencing panic attacks, severe mood swings, or intrusive thoughts.
- Difficulty coping: If you're finding it hard to manage daily tasks or responsibilities.
Your GP or midwife can refer you to perinatal mental health services, which specialise in supporting individuals during pregnancy and the first year after childbirth. These services offer a range of treatments, including talking therapies and, if necessary, medication.
Remember: You’re not alone
Pregnancy can be a rollercoaster, and feeling stressed doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. With the right tools and support, you can find calmer moments and care for both yourself and your baby. Be kind to yourself, you’re already doing one of the most important jobs in the world.
