- Adding a new baby to your family when you already have a toddler can feel overwhelming, but preparation helps.
- Start before birth: talk about the baby, read sibling books, and involve your toddler in nursery prep.
- First introductions should be calm, child-led, and supported with positive gestures like a big sibling gift.
- Maintain routines and carve out one-on-one time to help your toddler feel secure and reduce jealousy.
- Expect emotional ups and downs, validate feelings and use praise to encourage positive behaviour.
- Remember to look after yourself: accept help, rest when possible, and focus on small wins.
- Encourage bonding with gentle interactions and shared family moments, building the foundation for a lifelong sibling relationship.
Welcoming a new baby into your family is a moment filled with love and excitement, but it’s also a big change, especially if you already have a toddler at home. While you’re adjusting to life with a newborn, your toddler may feel unsettled, confused, or even jealous about their new role as an older sibling.
The good news is, there are lots of gentle, practical ways to help ease the transition. Here we’ll share simple tips on coping with a toddler and a newborn, supporting their emotions, and encouraging a loving bond between your children from the get-go.
Preparing your toddler before baby arrives
Toddlers thrive on feeling involved and included. Talking to them early about the baby helps them understand what’s happening in a way that feels safe and exciting. Share age-appropriate explanations about pregnancy, answer their questions, and read picture books about becoming a big brother or sister.
You can also make them part of the preparations, let them choose a baby outfit, help arrange the nursery, or pick out a special toy for their sibling.
Most importantly, reassure your toddler that your love for them hasn’t changed. Little reminders that they’ll always be your special “big kid” go a long way in building confidence and security.
Easing the first introductions
The first meeting between your toddler and new baby sets the tone for their early relationship. Aim to keep things calm and unhurried. When possible, greet your toddler warmly before introducing the baby, so they don’t feel overshadowed. Allow them to approach at their own pace, some children are curious straight away, while others need time.
A thoughtful idea is to give your toddler a “big sibling gift” from the baby, which can help them feel proud and included. Even small gestures like this reinforce their important new role.
