Parental Mental Health

• Postpartum depression can affect fathers and non-birthing parents as well as moms, with research suggesting that around 10% of new fathers experience depression after the birth of a baby. 

• Symptoms may include low mood, anxiety, irritability, exhaustion, and feeling disconnected from your partner or baby - often emerging weeks or months after the birth, rather than right away. 

• Postpartum depression is treatable, and support is available through healthcare providers, therapy, support groups, and national mental health organizations. 

The arrival of a baby is often portrayed as one of the happiest times in life. But for many men and non-birthing parents, the reality can feel very different. 

Alongside joy and pride, there may be sadness, anxiety, overwhelm, or a sense of disconnection that’s hard to explain - and even harder to admit. 

Postpartum depression, also known as postnatal depression, is not a failure, a weakness, or a sign that you’re a “bad” parent or partner. It’s a common and very real mental health condition that can affect fathers and non-birthing parents of all genders. 

Most importantly, it is treatable, and help is available. 

Can men and non-birthing parents get postnatal depression? 

Yes -  absolutely. 

Research suggests that around 10% of new fathers experience postnatal depression, and the risk increases significantly if their partner is also experiencing postnatal depression. For many, symptoms don’t appear immediately.  

Postnatal depression in men most commonly peaks between three and six months after the birth, when the initial adrenaline has worn off and exhaustion, pressure, and responsibility set in. 

New dads and partners can experience depression for many of the same reasons as new moms, including: 

• A sudden increase in responsibility 
• Major changes to routine, lifestyle and identity 
• Financial pressure 
• Strain on the relationship 
• Lack of sleep and ongoing exhaustion 
• Supporting a partner who is struggling with postnatal depression 

There may also be biological factors involved. Hormonal changes - including shifts in testosterone, estrogen, cortisol, vasopressin, and prolactin - can occur in fathers during the postpartum period and may increase vulnerability to low mood and depression. 

While the causes are complex, one thing is clear: postpartum depression in men and partners is normal, common, and not your fault. 

What are the signs of postpartum depression in dads and non-birthing parents? 

Postnatal depression doesn’t look the same for everyone. Some people feel overwhelmingly low, while others feel numb, irritable, or disconnected. Symptoms can develop gradually, making them easy to dismiss or explain away. 

Common emotional and mental symptoms include: 

• Feeling sad, low, or hopeless 
• Constant exhaustion or emotional numbness 
• Feeling unable to cope or overwhelmed by small tasks 
• Loss of interest in things you used to enjoy 
• Guilt or shame about not feeling happy 
• Worrying that you don’t love your baby “enough” 
• Anxiety, panic attacks, or constant worry 
• Irritability, frustration, anger, or cynicism 
• Difficulty concentrating or making decisions 
• Feeling disconnected from your partner or baby 
• Thoughts about death or harming yourself or your baby 

Behavioral and physical symptoms can include: 

• Withdrawing from family life, work, or social situations 
• Changes in appetite (loss of appetite or binge eating) 
• Difficulty sleeping or insomnia 
• Increased alcohol or drug use 
• Relationship conflict 
• Physical symptoms such as headaches, stomach problems, nausea, changes in weight, constipation, or diarrhea 

If something doesn’t feel right - even if your experience doesn’t match a checklist - it’s important to talk to someone.  

Asking for support is a sign of strength, not weakness. You deserve care just as much as anyone else in your family.

What support is available for postnatal depression in men and partners? 

If you’re experiencing postpartum depression, anxiety, or emotional distress after the birth of a baby, support is available across the United States - and you don’t have to face it alone. 

Postpartum Support International (PSI) 

PSI offers support specifically for postpartum mental health, including fathers and partners.

Helpline: 1-800-944-4773 (call or text) 

Text (Spanish): 971-203-7773 

Website: Offers online support groups for dads and partners 

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline 

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or in crisis, help is available 24/7 with 988 Lifeline. 

Call or text: 988 

Chat: Available online 

SAMHSA National Helpline 

SAMHSA offers free, confidential support for mental health and substance use concerns. 

Call: 1-800-662-HELP (4357) 

Available: 24/7 

Mental Health America (MHA) 

MHA provides mental health screening tools, resources, and referrals. 

Website: Offers free, anonymous mental health screenings 

Fatherhood and peer support groups 

Many local communities offer dad-specific or parent support groups through hospitals, community centers, and nonprofits. PSI and Mental Health America can help you find options near you. 

You’re not alone 

Postnatal depression in men and partners is far more common than many people realise - and far more treatable than it may feel right now. You don’t have to struggle in silence, and you don’t have to have all the answers. 

Reaching out, whether to a healthcare profession al, a helpline, a support group or someone you trust, can be the first step towards feeling like yourself again.

Help is available - and you deserve it.