Wes & Jack
"The truth is, becoming parents was always important to us. There’s been tremendous progress for same-sex and single parents, which has thankfully made becoming parents a reality for us.
At the beginning of our parenting journey, we initially considered surrogacy. However, through research we understood that pregnancy is hard for women to go through and also recognised that fertility is complex. We felt a sense of duty to not expect a woman to go through all the adversities when there were other options we could explore instead, like adoption.
We officially registered interest in July 2018. We searched for the right agency, had lots of adoption meetings and were paired with a social worker.
Stage one of adoption was admin-heavy and we were given eight weeks to gather then present the approval panel with all our documentation. With all that was required done, it was an elating moment to receive a yes from the approval panel! We then entered the family finding stage in the search for our future child.
Little did we know that two weeks after the approval panel we would be met with the profile of a child who would later be our son.
We were supposed to have six days of introductions before bringing our son home. This was to ease the transition for him as he had been with a foster carer since birth and was as much of a stranger to us as us to him. Unfortunately, due to COVID this couldn’t happen, and everything was put on hold.
Eventually, the matching panel recognised it was in his best interest to be placed with us as soon as possible. We had to isolate for two weeks, then the big day arrived. He was ours. At his forever home and sound asleep. We were anxious. Would he settle? When he woke up, heard our voices and smiled. What a relief!
From start to finish our adoption journey took what some would consider a long time, around two years, but it was all worthwhile."