Being pregnant with Abi was super exciting. We spent ages planning and buying stuff, and when she arrived everyone came to visit and there were lots of pressies. When it’s your first baby, you spend a fortune on things you don’t need, and they become your absolute focus.
With your second baby it’s not the same, but they still take up most of your time and attention to start with. So when Seb arrived, we didn’t notice how stressful it was for Abi. She was 2½ and, although we could have good chats with her, they were about things she wanted to do or eat, not about complex things like feelings. She’s always been pretty content and well-behaved, so we didn’t notice any changes. But one day I was out with friends and one of them remarked how much Abi’s hair was thinning. When I looked properly it was obvious, I can’t believe we hadn’t noticed it.