Our adoption journey took over twelve years, ending up in Nanjing, China. Meeting Finn for the first time was overwhelming for all of us. He was 19 months old, just old enough to feel shocked and confused, but too young to understand everything that was happening. We spent a couple of weeks in China together, bonding as a family in an environment that was familiar to him, and then it was time to come home.
To be honest, it was amazing how normal things were straight away. Finn spent the first couple of weeks exploring his new territory, learning where he could and couldn’t go, what he was and wasn’t allowed to touch. We have a lot of antiques in the house and decided not to move them. “He’s just got to learn” we said. So we put clear boundaries in from the start and helped him understand them. He’d been through so much change he now needed stability and routine, so that’s what we gave him. It helps that we’re always on the same page as parents. We follow the same rules and if we say ‘No’, which we do quite a bit, we explain why. He understands quickly - he’s a smart little boy.