Sex and relationships when pregnant: What’s safe?

• Sex is usually safe during pregnancy unless your doctor or midwife advises otherwise. 
• Your libido and comfort levels can change from one trimester to the next, and that’s completely normal. 
• Safe positions, open communication, and emotional intimacy can all help couples stay connected. 
• If you experience bleeding, pain, or leaking fluid after sex, it’s important to stop and check in with your midwife or healthcare provider. 

Pregnancy brings big changes to your body, emotions, and relationships. It’s natural to have questions about sex and intimacy along the way.  

In this guide, we’ll explore what’s safe, what to expect, and how to keep your relationship strong while preparing for parenthood. 

Is it safe to have sex during pregnancy? 

Yes, unless your doctor or midwife has advised against it, having sex during pregnancy is safe. Just remember that libido (yours and your partner’s) may fluctuate, so however you’re feeling about it is perfectly okay. 

Can sex harm my baby? 

Sex won’t harm your baby. They’re cushioned by the amniotic sac, uterus, and the protective mucus plug in the cervix. They may sense movement, but they won’t be hurt. 

Many expectant parents worry about this, but rest assured, for most healthy pregnancies, intimacy is completely safe. 

Your doctor or midwife may recommend avoiding sex in certain situations, such as placenta previa, a history of preterm labour, if your waters have broken early, or if you’re experiencing bleeding, unusual discharge, or abdominal pain. 

If you’re ever unsure, it’s always best to check in with your midwife or healthcare provider. 

How pregnancy affects your sex life and relationship 

Libidos don’t always match up during pregnancy, and that’s okay. Honest chats, patience, and exploring new ways of being close can help you both feel supported. 

Hormones and changes in libido during pregnancy 

Hormones can make your sex drive rise or fall. Some people notice an increase in desire (especially in the second trimester) while others find they’re just too tired or uncomfortable. All experiences are normal. 

Safe sex positions during pregnancy 

As your bump grows, some positions may feel awkward, and lying flat on your back should be avoided in the third trimester. 

Many couples find side-lying positions or those where the person on top supports their weight on their arms more comfortable later in pregnancy. Try using pillows or lubricant for extra comfort, and focus on what feels right for you.  

Remember, sex doesn’t have to be penetrative. Cuddling, kissing, massages, and other forms of closeness can be just as meaningful and enjoyable. 

Pregnancy often brings new emotions and expectations. Some couples feel more connected, while others need to make a conscious effort to nurture their bond. 

Take time to talk, share your hopes and fears, and check in with each other, it all helps keep your connection strong. 

Non-sexual ways to stay close to your partner 

Intimacy isn’t just about having sex. Holding hands, giving massages, cooking together, or enjoying quiet time on the couch are simple ways to show affection and keep the spark alive. 

Every pregnancy experience is different 

There’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to sex and intimacy during pregnancy.  

What matters is: 

• listening to your body 
• respecting each other’s feelings 
• and staying close in ways that feel good for both of you 

Sex should always be safe, fun, and pressure-free. If you’re concerned, your midwife or healthcare provider is there to help. 

Pregnancy is just one part of your journey together, the love and understanding you build now will support you into parenthood. 

For more tips to support your pregnancy journey, explore our pregnancy and parenting guides. 

Sources  

• Sex during pregnancy | Pregnancy Birth and Baby 

• Sexual health & intimacy in pregnancy: a guide for women