Contact Naps: The Pros & Cons 

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Anna
Published On
07 Apr, 2025
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6 minutes

For many new parents, contact naps are a familiar and often cherished part of the parenting journey. The warmth of your baby's tiny body nestled close and the rise and fall of their chest against yours. 

But beyond those cosy cuddles, are there real benefits to letting your baby nap in your arms? And what about the possible downsides?  

We’ve written this blog to discuss the pros and cons of contact naps to help you decide if this popular parenting practice suits you and your baby. 

What is contact napping?

A contact nap is when a baby dozes off and stays asleep while being held by a parent, grandparent or another caregiver. Instead of being moved into a cot or bassinet, the baby naps in their carer’s arms. 

Contact naps are especially common during the newborn phase and early months. In the early weeks after birth – often called the fourth trimester – babies still seek out the warmth and closeness they experienced in the womb. Letting them nap on you can help meet that need for connection and comfort. 

That said, it’s worth weighing up the pros and cons. Think about your baby's temperament, your lifestyle, and any longer-term sleep habits you’re hoping to encourage before deciding whether contact naps are right for you (and your baby). 

What are the benefits of contact napping?

  • Stronger bonding, less stress: Research shows that physical closeness between parents and their babies – like during contact naps – can trigger the release of hormones such as oxytocin (often called the “love hormone”). This kind of close contact helps strengthen the bond between caregiver and baby, while also easing stress. It’s also been found to lower cortisol, the body’s main stress hormone, in both babies and adults. With everyone feeling calmer, it can lead to more restful, better-quality sleep over time. 
  • Close comfort: Contact napping can help to foster secure attachment between parent and baby through physical closeness and responsiveness. 
  • Reduced startle reflex: Being held can help provide a sense of security and suppress a baby’s involuntary Moro (startle) reflex, which can often jolt them awake just as they are drifting off.   
  • Meeting baby’s needs: When a baby is held for a nap they have immediate comfort, warmth, and reassurance. Contact naps can help make it easier for them to relax and fall asleep before they get overtired and become harder to settle. 
  • Reduced distractions: If a baby sleeps while being held, they will be shielded from noises that could potentially wake them up.   
  • Positive sleep associations: Contact naps with a caregiver provide familiar warmth and comfort, and these cosy, positive feelings built around sleep can potentially last into toddlerhood and childhood. 

What are the negatives of contact napping? 

  • Tough to transition later on: Babies can get used to nodding off while being held, and this can make switching to solo naps more difficult. 
  • Hard to get anything done: As sweet as it is to hold a sleeping baby, it can be tricky when you’ve got stuff to do (or just want five minutes to yourself).   
  • Not always comfy: When you hold a baby, it doesn't take long before your arms, back or neck start feeling the strain. 
  • Tough for other carers: If a baby has only ever napped in your arms, it can be a bit rough on partners, grandparents or anyone else trying to help, especially if they refuse to sleep without a familiar cuddle. 
  • Less chance to self-settle: When babies are always helped to sleep with cuddles, they’re not able to practice learning how to soothe themselves. 
  • Strong sleep associations: If contact naps are the only way your baby falls asleep, they might come to rely on it every single time. Easing in some independent sleep can help create a bit more balance. 

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Contact napping and safety: What to consider

Contact napping – when your baby sleeps on you – can be a comforting, bonding experience for both of you. But safety matters. If you're feeling drowsy, always move your baby to a safe sleep space like their cot or Moses basket.  

Safe sleep guidelines strongly advise against sleeping on a sofa or armchair with a baby, so avoid sofas or soft surfaces, and make sure there's nothing around that could cover their face or restrict breathing.  

When should you stop contact naps?

There’s no hard-and-fast rule for when to stop contact naps, it depends on you and your baby.  

Many parents continue contact naps well into the first year, especially during those tricky leaps and regressions. If it’s working for you both, there’s no rush. But if you're ready for more hands-free time, or your baby’s starting to sleep more independently, you can gradually start transitioning to cot naps.  

Start with one nap a day and build from there. The key is to follow your baby’s cues and your own needs – there’s no “right” time, just the right time for you. 

Stopping contact naps is a gentle shift – not a sudden stop.  

Try transferring your baby to the cot once they’re drowsy but not fully asleep. A safe cot, a dark room, white noise, and a consistent nap routine can all help signal it’s time to rest.  

It’s a big change, so expect some resistance at first, but stick with it. If your baby only naps on you, begin by replacing one contact nap a day with a cot nap and build from there. You can also stay close by, and pat or shush for reassurance.  

Here are five simple ways to help make the move away from contact naps a little easier.  

  • Create a calming nap routine: Set the stage with a consistent wind-down before each nap. A quiet room, a cuddle, maybe a song – these small signals help your baby understand it’s time to rest. 
  • Ease into it: Start by holding your baby until they’re drowsy, then gently place them in their cot. Gradually reduce how long you hold them over time. 
  • Keep naps short (at first): Shorter naps during the transition can help stop your baby from getting overtired or frustrated. As they get used to sleeping in their own space, you can slowly extend nap time. 
  • Offer comfort in new ways: If your baby gets upset, soothe them with a gentle pat or your voice instead of picking them up right away.  
  • Be patient with the process: Stay consistent, stay calm, and trust that with time, your baby will adapt. 

Babies tend to outgrow contact naps somewhere between 6 to 12 months, but like most things in parenting, it depends on the baby. If it's still working for you both, there's no need to rush. 

Some start to prefer their own space earlier, while others find comfort in contact naps for a bit longer. You'll know your baby’s ready to move on when they start napping well in their cot, settle more easily without being held, or become too active to stay snuggled up for long. 

Kangaroo Care is skin-to-skin contact between a parent and their baby, where the baby (usually wearing only a nappy) is placed upright against the parent's bare chest. It’s especially common with newborns and premature babies, but it’s beneficial for all babies. 

It helps regulate baby’s heart rate, breathing, and temperature. It also boosts bonding, breastfeeding, and brain development—and can even reduce stress for both of you. 

Think of it as a warm, secure space that feels a lot like the womb.