Because we’re first-time parents, we decided to take a positive birthing course during pregnancy which informed most of our expectations of what the birth would be like for the both of us and what could possibly happen – both good and bad.
The birth of our son Kokoda was overall a really positive experience. It was fast, painful, magical, and intense. My waters broke at home at 37 weeks, and we headed to hospital. I had an unmedicated vaginal birth which was something that I was passionate about trying.
The whole thing took about 11 hours, but I did struggle to deliver my placenta afterwards, so the hospital staff had to help with that. In the end, we both came out of it super proud, and still look back fondly on it. I (Jarryd) was – and still am – totally in awe of Jessa.
Our expectations of having a newborn before Kokoda arrived were that we would never sleep, that he would cry constantly, and we wouldn’t know how to soothe him. I (Jarryd) was especially nervous about how small and fragile the baby was going to be, and he was so tiny! Surprisingly, we get much more sleep than we thought, but we didn’t realise that he would need so much sensory stimulation when he’s still so little. So, we’re working on developing his sight, hearing, and touch week to week.
Since having Kokoda, I (Jarryd) feel like I’ve changed as an individual. Both in terms of self-awareness, and awareness of my new little family and their needs. There’s been a total change in how my days go and what I think about from one hour to the next.
I (Jessa) have become more sensitive. I get emotional when watching certain TV shows, perhaps that’s because I now have a baby, or because of postpartum hormones, or a bit of both! As I’ve become more pushed for time, I think I’m more direct, and perhaps a little impatient.