"The truth is that looking after your mental and physical health when your pregnant and once your baby arrives is tricky.
Your hormones are all over the place, there's so much emotion and anxiety and it's such a big shift, especially with your first. Going from having no children to having a brand new baby to look after can be a real shock.
I found that having to adjust my mind to my new way of living took a lot more out of me than I thought it was going to. I didn’t realise how much mental strength it takes to bring up a child. There's so much in the mix, your personal wellbeing, your relationship with your partner, caring for your baby. You're on-demand 24/7!
There is certainly a taboo about not being able to cope and an assumption that everyone should be able to manage, when in fact not everyone can. I think many mums don’t want to express that they're not doing ok because society and some sections of social media lead us to believe that it should be easy.
Having a support network around you is so important. My husband and mum were literally my rocks through both my pregnancies and postpartum periods.
To anyone who is struggling with their mental wellbeing, I say don’t be afraid to seek help and admit that you're not ok. There are so many more people who feel the same as you than you know. Once you start talking to other mums you realise that you're all going through the same thing, so don’t be afraid to ask them for support and advice.
The truth is that the physical aspects of pregnancy, postpartum and parenting can be really difficult too.
I really struggled the first time round because I wasn’t expecting to have a C-section. As a dancer I've always been really in-tune with my body, but after having the C-section, I looked in the mirror and I thought 'WOW! Whose body is this? I don’t recognise this person'.
It really took a long time for me to come to peace with how my body had changed. I'd grown a baby and it was never going to be exactly as it was before I became a mum.
After my first baby arrived, I wasn’t very kind to myself. The second time round, I knew what to expect more and I think I coped better. There was going to be swelling and pain, and healing would take time. I learned about C-section massage and exercised a little differently in the postpartum period which helped. It just takes time and patience.
Looking back now I know that the process and all the changes that came with it were worth it, because I've got two beautiful children. Yes, my body has changed, but it's a sacrifice I'm willing to make."