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How to Cope with Mum Guilt

Article By
Kate
Published On
29 Apr, 2025
Read Time
3 minutes

If you’re a parent, chances are you’ve felt a tug in your chest when you leave the baby to go to work, take a moment for yourself, or make a choice that doesn’t feel “perfect.” That’s mum guilt.  

It creeps in quietly but carries weight, making you second-guess your instincts and question whether you’re doing enough. 

Parental guilt can make you second-guess your instincts and question whether you’re doing enough. These feelings are incredibly common (especially among mums) thanks to the mountain of expectations, comparisons, and unspoken pressures that come with raising a tiny human.  

But just because they're common doesn’t mean they should be ignored. 

In this blog, we’ll break down why mum guilt happens, what causes it, and most importantly, how to lighten the load. Because you’re already doing more than enough, and we’re here to help you believe that. 

What is mum guilt? 

Mum guilt is a nagging feeling that you’re not doing enough, not doing it “right,” or somehow letting your baby, toddler or child down (even though you’re doing your absolute best). It’s a mix of doubt, pressure and self-criticism that many parents, particularly mums, carry day to day. 

What causes mum guilt? 

Mum guilt is fuelled by a mix of societal pressure, comparison culture, and biological instincts.  

Traditional expectations paint mums as endlessly selfless, making it hard to prioritise your own needs without feeling judged. Social media adds another layer, where filtered glimpses of “perfect parenting” can make real-life struggles feel like failures.  

Has your feeding journey turned out differently from what you had planned? Feeling bad about heading back to work and feeling torn between career and baby? Or worrying about letting screen time run longer than planned?  

Mum guilt shows up in everyday moments. Like crying in the car after nursery drop-off. Or lying awake at night replaying the day, questioning a decision you made hours ago. It’s born from love, but it can undermine your confidence, steal joy, and make already tough days feel even harder.  

How to overcome mum guilt 

You can’t banish mum guilt overnight, but you can quiet it. Recognising it is the first step. Knowing you're not alone in feeling it is the next.  

These strategies for dealing with mum guilt are here to help you shift your mindset, feel more supported, and trust that you’re already doing a great job.  

Remember, being a good parent doesn’t mean being perfect, it means being present, loving and human. 

Top 4 tips to help you overcome mum guilt

  1. Be kind to yourself: Start with self-compassion. Mistakes happen, and that’s okay. Would you say the things you think about yourself to another mum or dad? Probably not.
  2. Remember, perfection is a myth: Let go of the pressure to “do it all”. It’s okay if the house is a mess. Focus on what matters: your child feeling loved and safe. Remind yourself of everything you're already doing. Celebrate small wins, like managing the bedtime routine or surviving a chaotic day with your sense of humour intact. Write them down if you need to. Keep a note in your phone called “proof I’ve got this” and read it when guilt creeps in.
  3. Talk it out: Try not to keep your guilt bottled up. Share how you’re feeling with your partner, friends, or other parents. Sometimes just sharing your emotions out loud helps. And chances are, they’ve felt it too. Ask for support when you need it – whether that’s a listening ear, a break, or just reassurance that you’re doing great (because you are).
  4. Make space for you: Self-care isn’t selfish – it’s essential. When parents are rested and recharged, they’re more resilient. That doesn’t mean spa days (unless that’s your thing). It could be a hot cuppa while the baby naps, a walk alone, or ten minutes to breathe and reset.

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